I am very fortunate to have found my passion in life. Coaching has changed my life and given me the opportunity to be able to do the same for many others. My mission is to help people obtain clarity and realise their true potential by focussing on their personal development to achieve their goals and live a fulfilled life.
I was fortunate enough to get into coaching after having that moment in life where I simply felt stuck. I was excelling at work, had a wonderful home life yet still felt something was missing. As Howard Schultz of Starbucks once stated; “People want to be part of something larger than themselves. They want to be part of something they’re really proud of, that they’ll fight for, sacrifice for, that they trust.” I lacked the clarity of articulating what this was exactly but I do remember the moment in time when this started to change.
Back in 2015, I was being coached by a personal trainer and was becoming more knowledgeable in fitness, nutrition and training. In addition to this, I recognised what I loved most about my profession in the corporate environment was helping others in their personal development and being a part of their journey. I came across The Coaching Academy and after the introductory weekend with them, I knew the right decision was to begin my coaching journey with them. I spoke to a few trusted key people in my life for their opinion as this was going to be a huge investment from both a personal and a financial perspective. Making the decision to join was scary, nerve-racking and insanely exciting. I felt challenged, frustrated, nervous and proud of how far I had come already. In 2018 I qualified with a distinction as a life coach in their Personal Performance Diploma and will shortly qualify in the Corporate Executive Coaching Diploma.
Why Personal Development coaching?
Whilst growing up, I had many glowing reports at parents’ evenings even if they did always begin with; “Natalie is not very confident!” That changed when I was introduced to the subject of Drama at school; engaged and inspired by an amazing teacher, I flourished and achieved top grades through to graduation at University. I started to notice that when I put my heart and soul into the things I loved and was passionate about, I started to achieve great things. This resonates in every area of my life and a major strength I have recognised in myself.
Alongside University, I was working part-time in the corporate environment in a job that I decided to venture into full time when I graduated. It was fast paced and I was able to implement what I had learnt at University. I felt I was making a difference by helping others and growing as an individual.
After over 15 years in the corporate sector, I have conducted many personality profiling tests, facilitated leadership courses alongside leading talent and mentoring programmes. I have a keen fascination in learning and am consistently focus and invest in my own development on a daily basis. One of the best parts of my profession is seeing others grow and recognise their potential. I have a proactive, positive approach to life with a strong growth mindset to see every day as an opportunity to be happy, make a difference, and live life to the fullest. It’s really up to us to choose those things that make each day count.
What are the foundations to my coaching business?
I strongly believe that education and learning is key to success and that we do not appreciate how important this is. I commit to learning and investing in myself continually to improve my skills and knowledge to be able to help others. My passion for building confidence and understanding emotional intelligence began when I was focussing on my own development and becoming more self aware. I have explored my strengths for many years of which I know I radiate confidence as it is often remarked upon. Someone who possesses high emotional intelligence has flourishing relationships; excels in the workplace but most importantly in life yet so many struggle to not only understand others but first of all themselves.
Emotional Intelligence was popularised by Daniel Goleman and is the ability to understand and manage our own emotions and the emotions of others. In practical terms, this means being aware of how emotions can drive our behaviour and how this impacts people.
Goleman’s model focusses on five competencies and skills that drive performance. These are:
Self – awareness
This is the ability to understand and recognise one’s mood, motivation and ability and the impact your emotions have on you and others. Skills that prove an individual as emotionally mature include; confidence, the ability to laugh at one’s self and their mistakes and the awareness of how you are perceived by others.
Self – regulation
This is the ability to control one’s impulses, the ability to think before you decide to speak or react and the ability to express yourself appropriately, holding yourself to account. If you are emotionally mature in this component you would know your values, exert responsibility for your actions, adapt to change and have the ability to apply rationale to others’ emotions or behaviour.
This is a distinct interest in learning and self development. It is about being confident to stay strong when there are obstacles in life and set goals which are followed through. An emotionally mature individual would use initiative, show commitment, tenacity and perseverance in the face of adversity.
This is the ability to understand and share the thoughts, feelings, perspective and behaviour of others. You can only be empathetic if you are self aware. Emotionally mature individuals would possess a genuine interest in others and the ability to anticipate someone’s emotional responses and act accordingly.
This is the ability to be intuitive to jokes, sarcasm, maintaining friendships and relationships and finding common ground with others. An emotionally mature individual in this component has good communication skills, the ability to lead and manage a group of people and the ability to resolve situations of conflict through negotiation or persuasion.
Confidence and emotional intelligence both play key roles in life. Without confidence, your needs will not be met as you will be unable to approach someone. Without emotional intelligence, you cannot understand an emotional atmosphere in a room. The two are paramount in you being able to achieve your goals.
What have I learnt so far?
Every failure is an opportunity to learn and grow. As Napoleon Hill said; “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.” Focus your mind on the vision of what you want to achieve and obtain clarity of this goal. Break down your goals and gain the momentum to be consistent and surround yourself with like minded people. Network; get a mentor; be a mentor; get a coach and remember life is for living so have fun.
Is coaching for me?
Coaching is about you. Coaching gets you from where you are now on your journey to where you want to be quicker, than if you were to do it on your own. Everyone deserves to feel happiness and success in life no matter what the circumstances. I believe as Jim Rohn once said;